What do we all want? We all want to live fulfilling lives, to realise our potential, to contribute in ways that best reflect who we are.
What is the fundamental wisdom? No harm. With wisdom we realise that the only way we can live fulfilling lives without harm is by not harming other's fulfilment.
Not harming other's fulfilment means means not controlling what other's do. Thus control is a form of harm and we must reject it.